Having a father is a true blessing. Caring for so many during their own personal time of crisis, a sacred trust. This week demonstrated so many dynamics. Bill is blessed. His now small figure hidden in the hospital bed as his grown children hover, scribble notes, demand and take control. Emma sits and holds the hand of her 90 year old grandfather. I can tell she wants to keep him from this new and scarey experience. I remind her that he has been through so much and has more fortitude than frailty. Theo won’t be crushed by this cancer. “Doc, my wife died from cancer after we adopted three boys. They are just teenagers now and I need to be here to keep raising them.”

Some days in the clinic, the emotion of families is overwhelming. While I understand the role I have in being an oncologist on their team, I want to care for everyone of them as I would my own beloved Husband, Dad, Brothers- in -law, Son, Nephews and Friends who carry that badge and burden. A Dad is for life- for them and you.

And so, this Father’s Day, I salute these men of valor. They bear the burden and blessing of family on their broad shoulders. They never let cancer or illness interfere. They understand their role and should be honored for their service. God bless each and everyone of you. God bless those no longer here this year who were true and loving examples of family leaders and are missed so deeply. Know that all of us appreciate the work you do and many sacrifices you make to cherish those in your care. Let us all surround these men with our own love and thanksgiving in return. Happy Father’s Day.